I have always thought the expression "birds of a feather flock together" matched up with what I saw in the real estate world. It coincided with certain demographics and income of clients searching for a certain type of housing product. It also came together with zoning areas for certain sizes or style of housing. First time home buyers would not be looking at million dollar homes. Gated and guarded communities were not next to trailer parks.
But what I found interesting from a point of sociology was that the trailer park people and the millionaire people just don't mix based on their behaviors. They obviously "think differently."
People that go hunting for deer on the weekend are different than those hanging out on the golf course and drinking margaritas in their golf carts. Political activists and tree huggers are different in their views than those that support the big oil companies. This is probably obvious to everyone but I just wondered why it had to be so. Wouldn't it be a more lively life you could create if you could mix it up every now and then and create the "strange bedfellows" scenarios? Indeed that does happen sometimes when we have to compromise, but we revert back to those of our kind, our flock as soon as possible.
An exception to this is what you may have read from books like The Millionaire Next Door. Here, some folks live in modest priced homes and their "wealth" is all kept below the surface and they are not flaunting it with expensive homes, furnishings, country club memberships and multiple cars. It 's a much more common sense approach and reminds us it's not what you earn and spend but what you keep that's more important.
In the end, the way the world works is half acre lots were not meant to mix with cookie cutter houses with postage stamp lots. Apartments were not to be intermingled with single family homes. Four car garages were not meant to be side by side with one car carports. We are a homogeneous not a heterogeneous society. I do wonder why sometimes because we are all just human. Maybe we need the peacefulness of gathering among our own kind. It is the way nature organizes itself too so maybe we are on the right track.
But in terms of transformation from one category to another, to move from a trailer to a mansion, you have to think differently and adapt to new behaviors. The key is knowing what is right for you and who you are and want to be, and in the end what makes you happy.
